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fan sends out a message that the lady would like to have a conversation with her admirer; holding the fan using the right hand would mean the woman is willing to have a boyfriend, while carrying the fan with the left hand signifies that she already has a lover and thus no longer available; fanning vigorously symbolizes that the lady has deep feelings for a gentleman, while fanning slowly tells that the woman courted does not have any feelings for the suitor; putting the fan aside signals that the lady does not want to be wooed by the man; and the abrupt closing of a fan means the woman dislikes the man.
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is done by peers or friends of the couple being matched. The teasing practice assists in his teasing phase actually helps in circumventing such an embarrassing predicament because formal courtship has not yet officially started can also have as many suitors, from which she could choose the man that
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or "servitude", instead of paying a form of dowry during the courtship period. In this form of courting, the
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is the practice of singing romantic love songs, reciting poems, writing letters, and gift-giving. This respect extends to the
Filipina's family members. The proper rules and standards in traditional Filipino courtship are set by Philippine society.
633:. These formal engagements are arranged by the parents of men and the women. This also involves discussions regarding the price and the form of the dowry. The Tausog people proclaims that a wedding, a celebration or announcement known as the
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version practiced in Luzon island, a suitor would threaten to stab his heart while in front of the courted woman's father. If the father of the woman refuses to give his daughter's hand to the suitor, the suitor is smitten by a knife.
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The Bagobo, on the other hand, sends a knife or a spear as a gift to the home of the courted woman for inspection. Accepting the weapon is equivalent to accepting the
Filipino man's romantic intention and advances.
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suitor expresses his interest to a woman in a discreet and friendly manner in order to avoid being perceived as very "presumptuous or aggressive" or arrogant. Although having a series of friendly
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364:BatangueƱos
229:Boxer Codex
161:Maria Clara
121:Philippines
105:Westernized
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1463:Categories
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1304:Tajikistan
1219:Kyrgyzstan
1199:Kazakhstan
1119:Bangladesh
1109:Azerbaijan
779:References
715:ā and the
704:liberalism
647:, and the
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454:Palawanons
437:mahal-alay
410:, meaning
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376:godmothers
372:godfathers
306:naninilong
302:BulaqueƱos
272:balagtasan
163:attitude.
61:April 2013
1415:Hong Kong
1369:Palestine
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1289:Singapore
1169:Indonesia
644:kulintang
534:Bicolanos
510:pangagad'
384:groomsmen
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287:middleman
194:kapamalai
192:, and as
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142:Often, a
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1264:Pakistan
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1239:Maldives
1234:Malaysia
1134:Cambodia
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747:See also
717:internet
667:forehead
635:pangalay
564:sanskrit
543:pamianan
492:Cebuanos
463:pasaguli
404:taga-amo
368:Batangas
322:prickles
314:nipa hut
277:Tagalogs
259:Ilocanos
198:Maranaos
186:pasaguli
182:Ilocanos
90:CariƱosa
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1334:Vietnam
1249:Myanmar
1229:Lebanon
1159:Georgia
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1104:Armenia
758:Sumpong
639:gabbang
631:Muslims
611:palabas
589:palabas
556:"asawa"
475:pabalik
469:pabalic
458:riddles
450:Palawan
432:Apayaos
420:suicide
408:palabas
353:agamang
341:Kalinga
339:to the
294:Bulacan
275:of the
242:mestizo
196:to the
188:to the
180:to the
156:teasing
119:in the
113:culture
101:Western
1469:Dating
1379:Taiwan
1314:Turkey
1279:Russia
1214:Kuwait
1194:Jordan
1184:Israel
1144:Cyprus
1129:Brunei
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329:Ifugao
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263:tapat
255:Luzon
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184:, as
178:danon
174:tampa
148:dates
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1174:Iran
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655:Imam
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