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Ladder Theory claims that Abyss is a place for every person that you don’t care about. It might be a stranger that you never met, people that you never want to talk to in your life. The Ladder Theory refers to it as “Woman’s Abyss” and isn’t concerned about “Man’s Abyss”.
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